What to say
Greg and I are unsure of what to tell Tea to call her private area. I am not scared of the words vagina and penis, (even though I giggle like a 12 year old when someone says vagina) though I don't know if it's appropriate for little kids to use these words (why, I don't know, I think I heard it somewhere). I am not opposed to her calling it what it is, but is that socially acceptable (not that I'm always socially acceptable, but that's another story). So what do you tell your kids to call their private areas? I'm a fan of cha chi and chi chi's but I would like Tea to know their real names eventually.
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I think you should tell her the real deal... I remember when we were in the Bronx and Daniel came up to me and told me "I have a penis" haha it was funny. Little kids can get away with anything :) but maybe teach her don't to talk about in public...
Then again, I don't know anything!
Here's my opinion about all of this. I, too, have no problem calling them by their real names. The only issue that I run into is that there are so many different parts on girls! The vagina is not the same as the labia or the urethra. And, I don't want to teach them that the whole area is a vagina--because it's not. So, for now, we call it their "pee-pee." We'll get into details later when they realize those different parts are all there.
Well I'm not gonna be any help because I don't like to say any of those words. But you already knew that. Chloe still thinks I feed Halle from my stomach:) My kids are gonna be screwed up. But I just call them their privates.
April, I would laugh hysterically if a kid told me that. I was actually really worried about you because I thought you'd think we were crazy if Tea said to you one day and said vagina and pointed to it. Glad to know you're not new to this kind of talk.
See, Amanda, I didn't even think of all that. I just call the whole thing a vagina, oh goodness, I don't want to get into the details with her either. Even I don't know all the parts :) ha ha ha.
And, yes, Anna, I know your scared of all those words..nipple, nipple, nipple. HA HA HA
At this point we just have Malia call it her pee pee. We too are not afraid of using the appropriate words. We will get into the nitty gritty details of what everything is really called when she's ready for that.
Hey Jessica! Funny, kind of long story: When I was at Ricks in my Child Development class we discussed this topic. Our teacher said if we make a big deal out of it then they will too. She said to practice saying those words so your not uncomfortable saying them to your kids. She jokingly said if you have to sing "Head, Shoulders, Penis, Toes" to help ease into it than that's fine. She then proceeded to have us all stand up and sing "Head, Shoulder, Penis, Toes". It was hillarious! We were all rolling on the floor. So you and Greg could try that before you discuss it with Tea. Ha! :) Just an idea! :)
Hey now when Emma asked me those questions you said, "YOU BETTER HAVE TOLD HER THEIR REAL NAMES!!!!" That's a quote. So, it's not so easy when it's your own litte girl is it. Just tell her what it is. Emmas never repeated vagina, but..... she has repeted penis for Ethan.
I've never given it much thought. Annie always just called her bum her bummy and her vagina her front bummy...she came up with that on her own so I figured why mess with it???
In the end, do what's comfortable for you guys! Growing up, we always refered to it as pee pee. I guess there are ups and downs to both ways. Good luck! :)
We always used the real words. But I'd be lying if I didn't say it was a little embarassing when Skylar pointed people out in the grocery store saying "He has a penis. She has a vagina." She got the correct words down before she grasped the concept that we don't really yell them out in the grocery store... Still, I think that's the way to go. :) Good luck!
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