My opinion
As if I don't have enough opinions that I share with everyone, I thought I'd add another.
After being offended for the billionth time (my own fault, others don't seek to offend me, I realize I choose to be offended) and after a conversation with a friend who has been hurt by the subject way more than I have, I decided to post that I'm grateful I can work. I'm grateful people are willing to hire me. I'm grateful that I can provide for my family while Greg is working hard to one day take over the role (or at least share the role with me :P). And I'm grateful that I like my job so much so that I really enjoy working. I kind of discovered after staying home this summer that I enjoy working. I've been working for a long time and for me, I feel like a better Mom when I'm working--as weird as that may sound but it's true, I'm not a very good SAHM. I love Tea more than anything in this world and want nothing but the best for her and if that means a mom at home, I will do whatever I can to provide that for her, but she is doing just fine. She doesn't have anxiety, she doesn't have separation panic attacks, she isn't anti-social, she doesn't try to kill animals (except for the few occasions where she tries to rip Josie's, our cat, tail off) and she usually only beats people up when she's hungry or tired. I don't think she's suffered and I don't think a lot of kids suffer by having their mom's work. So for everyone who has completely unintentionally, no fault of your own, I don't blame you, offended me, sometimes Mom's have to work and that's ok. Some day you may have to work and that's ok. I only say this, because sometimes I wish someone would've said it to me before I discovered it on my own.
8 comments:
Uh...Jessica. Does your boss read this blog? I wonder if (s)he is proud to have such happy employees or just found someone to do more "fun" projects :-)
HA, nice Danny, I have to remind myself to not let them see this. I don't need anymore "fun" projects
You know I'm right there with you! In fact, I'm working 2 jobs, doing scentsy and being a nurse! There are days where I know I am a better mom because I have stepped away and have been reminded through work of the good things and people I have at home!
I want to thank you because I know that you understand me when I say that I felt like a better mom when I was working outside of the home. Not many people understand that, but you do and I'm so happy that you have talked to me about it and make me feel like it's true and it's okay. I don't feel like a bad mom when I discuss this with you. I think you are a great mom and Greg is a great dad. Tea is such a cute, sweet, funny little girl and I know that it is doing her no harm. Keep at it and hopefully one day when you and Greg are working hard we will live closer together so I can watch Tea!! That is my dream:)
I wish often that I could work a little more for my own personal reasons. I love my kids but I believe I would be a happier and better mom if I was able to have a job to go to occasionally. When I've said this in the past around certain people, I've been lectured in numerous ways.
I think that what isn't right for someone may be completely right for someone else and it's no one else's place to judge.
I think you're great, Jess, and anybody can see that Tea is as happy as she can possibly be.
I'm glad you're not afraid to share your opinions. Before I had Heidi I don't think I would have understood your feelings about being a better mom by working but now I can totally see how that can be true. Some days I think I would be a better mom if I worked. I think it helps you keep part of your identity or something. The most important part is that your kids are your number 1 priority and I know Tea is for you. You're great!
Thank you for your post. I don't think others mean to be offensive and like you said it is probably my fault to be offended BUT quite a few people acted surprised that I was going back to work or even teaching this year... I agree with you. I have only stayed home for 3 weeks but somedays I think it might be a nice break to go to work (although I know it will hard to leave Kaden) and I am grateful that I have a job and can help our little family survive on our own. My big thing is that I am not working just so we can have "things of the world" we actually need my income right now to pay our mortgage, insurance, etc. So its not just me wanting more money. Anyways you are a good mom and your daughter seems very well taken care of and loved!
Well said Jessica!
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